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Is it okay to ignore Christmas?

Tanya Peisley Date: 06/12/2016
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Is it okay to ignore Christmas?

Absolutely!

Is it okay to take the bits of Christmas that work for you and discard the rest?

Definitely!

And is it okay to enjoy the solitude of Christmas Day and indulge yourself without feeling guilty?

Bring it on!

Whether you find yourself alone this Christmas by choice or circumstance, it can be a liberating experience to buck the Christmas trend of togetherness. After all, being alone and being lonely are not the same thing.

So, make Christmas what you want Christmas to be. It doesn’t need to be a day to simply ‘survive’. You can choose to forget it’s Christmas Day altogether, or take an opportunity to be a little selfish and celebrate your independent self.

Getting out and about

Embrace the emptiness

These tiny moments afforded by Christmas Day are some of life’s luxuries:

  • Walk along uncluttered streets
  • Take self-timer photos and walk away – no one will be around to steal your camera
  • Be the only person in the only shop that’s open
  • Take your pick of the best views, uninterrupted by others
  • Stroll along the quiet beach
  • Sit in your favorite park with your favorite book
  • Utilise the empty roads and enjoy a day trip
  • Take in the Christmas store windows, without a queue

At home

Soak up the beginnings of summer:

  • enjoy some gardening
  • start some spring cleaning
  • do some DIY rennovations

In the community

Volunteering during the holidays is a way to connect with others, boost self-esteem and help people less fortunate.

Maybe serve dinner at a soup kitchen, take gifts to a children’s hospital, or visit residents at a nursing home.

If it’s too late to register your interest there are other ways to help. Visiting a neighbour or starting a conversation with a stranger could be just the thing both of you need on Christmas Day.

If you’re a Christian, attend a church service. Christmas services are often the most popular, with naitivity scene activities, carols and if you’re lucky Santa may even pay a visit!

Alternatively, some councils or neighborhoods offer a community Christmas party you may be able to join.

Staying in

  • Be actively lazy
  • Stay in your pyjamas all day
  • Have a marathon movie day, or choose a TV series that you’ve been waiting to watch from beginning to end
  • Find a book and curl up on the couch, in bed or outside
  • Pamper yourself – paint your nails, shave, wax, trim, moisturize, soak in a bath, enjoy at box of chocolates, drink some mulled wine
  • Lip sync or dance around the house to loud music
  • Enjoy your love of cooking, crafts, knitting or painting

Decorate for Christmas 

It may seem unusual to decorate when you're by yourself, but it can be a great way to get into the Christmas spirit and lift your own spirits.

  • Put up your Christmas tree, or for an authentic look buy a real tree
  • Choose your favorite decorations, or buy some new ones
  • Make your own Christmas decorations
  • Hang some lights on your front porch

After you have decorated, buy yourself some gifts. Even though you buy yourself things through the year, it is nice to treat yourself at Christmas too.

  • You can even wrap the gifts and put them under the tree to open on Christmas morning
  • If you have a pet, don’t forget to give them a special present, and a special meal
  • Buy something off the internet for yourself on Christmas Day. You’ll have something to look forward to long after Christmas is over

Plan your own Christmas meal. As you are celebrating Christmas on your own, you can serve all your favorite foods. Maybe turkey and ice cream, pizza, or something more traditional.

  • Get your favorite foods, favorite drinks, desserts and all the trimmings
  • Set the table however you like, or lay a picnic rug in front of the TV
  • Or if you are feeling rebellious, eat in bed

SANE Forums member ideas

Members of the SANE Forum have offered some excellent suggestions on doing Christmas your own way, or boycotting the season altogether. Check out the following threads for some tips and advice:

Christmas is what we make it

Christmas can be a difficult day, but it can also be what we make it. It may be that you simply need to change your expectations for the day. You can change Christmas to meet your needs whatever they may be, ignore it completely, or ignore the bits that don’t suit you.

This isn’t to say reframing is easy. If your vision of Christmas is peaceful joyful families, the whole Hallmark scene, then stepping away from that may be hard. You may plan a perfectly ‘ignored’ Christmas, but find you are longing for the ideal storybook Christmas.

The thought that everyone else is having a wonderful time of togetherness can accentuate the feeling of being alone and disconnected. And all of this can be a challenge.

So please know if you are alone and feeling lonely, there are services to contact for support over this time.

Tanya Peisley is the SANE Help Centre’s Senior Advisor.

Join the SANE Forums and SANE Help Centre this Tuesday December 13 from 7pm AEDT in #TopicTuesday as we ask whether we should (or in fact, can) ignore Christmas and discuss ways to manage our wellbeing throughout this time of year.

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Last updated: 13 December, 2016

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